Welcome to Adoption Triad Online
The purpose of this site is to provide and share information on issues related to adoption, adoptees, and birth parents. I am a late discovery adoptee, and have adopted my granddaughter, so I've been on two sides of the fence. In addition, I hope to eventually be able to provide search and locate services and connections as well. My ultimate hope is to be able to add a reunion page.
Please Enjoy Your Stay.
This is intended to be a safe haven; many of us have been abused and misused by the system and by well-meaning relatives and friends. No one with something positive to contribute is unwelcome here.
A Little about Me.
I am an adult adoptee who did not find out she was adopted until the age of 31. I grew up as an only child of an Italian mother and an Irish-german father. As parents go, they always did what they thought was best - however misguided that may have been at the time. My adoptive mother was diagnosed with a mental disease in the late 1950's, and it was recommended that she have a baby - back then this was a common "cure" for a woman with my amom's problems. Since she was unable to bear children of her own, they adopted me. (The story is actually much longer, with many twists and turns, they never actually set out to adopt a child.) I turned out to be only a temporary cure 
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When I finally discovered I was adopted, and after the initial shock wore off, I was actually relieved. I was somewhat glad to know that I wasn't a part of that gene pool.
At the time of my discovery, the internet was still only used by the military - we simple folk were left to things like BBS's (anyone remember those?) and searching by hand and cold calling. Unfortunately, 10 years after beginning the search, Helen Schuler Blair at the Montgomery County Courts in PA finally figured out that my birthmom had been dead since 1989 - 5 years before I even knew I was adopted. Her death, sad as it made me, opened up the door for me to find my siblings (I was one of 8 children!) aunts, cousins, and finally my birth father.
I have spent so much time and energy since 1994 searching, that I am now the locate expert in my office, and spend much of my day doing locate as part of my job.
The only living first degree relative I have yet to find is my only full-blood sibling, my brother John Rosswell Karr, III. He had a son, Jeremiah, about 8 years ago. He has been occasionally in trouble with the law. Other than that, he remains shrouded in mystery, and none of my other relatives will admit to knowing of his whereabouts.
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